it's not about winning - it's about helping
other people win!"Bob
'Idea Man' Hooey
The following is another item that
Irene received from a friend and passed along to me. It made my eyes
leak. We have not been able to
source it for attribution and found it had been included on numerous
blogs and websites. However its inspiring message is
worth sharing and more importantly, living.
"At a fund raising dinner for a
school that serves learning-disabled children, the father of one of
the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all
who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he
offered a question: "When not interfered with by outside influences,
everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay,
cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand
things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in
The audience was stilled by the query.
father continued. "I believe that when a child like Shay,
physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an
opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it
comes in the way other people treat that
Then he told the following
Shay and his father had walked past a park where some
boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, "Do you think
they'll let me play?" Shay's father knew that most of the boys would
not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father
also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give
him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be
accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.
approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting
much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and
said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth
inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to
put him in to bat in the ninth inning."
Shay struggled over
to the team's bench and, with
a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His Father
watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The
boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom
of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs
but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay
put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits
came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and
on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him
from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's
team scored again.
Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run
was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at
At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give
away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was
given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible
because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much
less connect with the ball.
However, as Shay stepped up to
the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting
winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps
to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The
first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher
again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.
As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground
ball right back to the pitcher.
The game would now be over.
The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown
the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that
would have been the end of the game.
Instead, the pitcher
threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of
all team mates. Everyone
from the stands and both teams started yelling, "Shay, run to first!
Run to first!" Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he
made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and
Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching
his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and
struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards
second base, the right fielder had the ball ... the smallest guy on
their team who now had his
first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have
thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood
the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball
high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third
base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases
toward home. All were screaming, "Shay, Shay, Shay, all the
Shay reached third base because the
opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction
of third base, and shouted, "Run to third! Shay, run to
As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and
the spectators, were on their feet screaming, "Shay, run home! Run
home!" Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as
the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his
"That day", said the father
softly with tears now rolling down his face, "the boys from both
teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this
Shay didn't make it to
another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being
the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home and seeing
his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the
To all those that make a bold
statement, "That it is all about winning," you need to
think that again! "That day everyone was a winner including
Author unknown... but we appreciate his capturing this
father's remarks. I have no idea if
this happened or not...but I have seen similar events where people
put aside their competitive "win at all costs" attitudes to help
someone win on a personal level and to grow in the
We grow by what we give, not what
we get. When we give love, laughter, and encouragement, we are
made better by the process. Guess that is why I often travel
to great lengths to share an idea or encouragement and have grown
more than I can tell here. I have been given some wisdom and have a
responsibility to share it where I can.
Note: This is more relevant as
Irene is an active volunteer official for track and field meets
across Canada. Later this month she will be officiating a national
meet in Toronto. At that meet she will be given her last evaluation
enroute to being internationally certified. This would mean she
would be eligable to officiate in Olympic and other international
track and field competitions. I told her if she gets invited to
officiate in London for 2012, I'm coming.
and comments from Seoul, Korea and Vladivostok,
My trip to the far east and Eastern Russia was
absolutely amazing. I met some wonderful people and the Russian
hospitality was great. I had the chance to play tourist and see
parts of Russia that, as recent as 1991, were closed to non-military
personnel and especially non-Russians.
Here are a couple of pictures as
well as links to those I put up on my Facebook page while traveling.
Pictured above with my CAPS
friend Doug and some of the Rotaract students. Pictured to the left
with 3 Rotaract students and my brand new commemorative 150th
Anniversary book for Vladivostok.
Moving Upward and Onward
Don't Sell Yourself
It's not what you have but what
you do with what you have that will determine your success or
failure. Abraham Maslow, the great psychologist said that the story
of the human race is the story of people selling themselves short.
He said people have a tendency to settle for far less from life than
they are truly capable of. Many people are spinning their wheels in
careers where they should be moving rapidly onward and upward.
Here's how you can put your career on the fast
Choose Your Parents
Someone once said that the key to
success was to choose your parents carefully. That may be partially
true but it is even more important to choose your job or career with
great care. The choice of a job or occupation for which you are
ideally suited comes before anything else. If you try to work at
something you don't enjoy or don't believe in, you'll never be
happy, and you'll never be successful.
Be the Best At
What You Do
Which leads us to the next point.
If you want to reach the stars in your career, you have to become
excellent at what you do. You have to pay any price, go any
distance, spend any amount of time necessary to "be the best."
Extraordinary rewards only go for extraordinary performance; average
rewards for average performance; below average rewards, insecurity
and failure for below average performance. And here's a vital key,
you are being paid today exactly what you're worth - no more, no
less. If you want to earn more, you must increase your worth, your
value to others.
The Key to
The reason why choosing the right
career, why doing what you love to do is so important, is because
unless you really care about your work, you will never be motivated
to persist at it until you become excellent. And until you become
excellent at what you're doing, you can't move
The Key to Peak
The antidote to these fears is
the development of courage, character and self-esteem. The opposite
of fear is actually love, self-love and self-respect. Acting with
courage in a fearful situation is simply a technique that boosts our
regard for ourselves to such a degree that our fears subside and
lose their ability to effect our behavior and our
Action Exercises Here are two
things you can do to be more successful in your
First, set high standards for yourself and recognize
that anything that someone else has achieved, you can probably
achieve as well. There are no limits.
Second, select one key
skill area that is important in your job and resolve to become
absolutely excellent in that area. Start today to get better and
Brian Tracy has been empowering
business professionals by sharing his knowledge all over the world.
His techniques will allow you to reach your goals and achieve the
unthinkable. He has been tremendously generous with me when we have
presented on the same stage and allowing me to draw from his wisdom
for my various publishing activities.
arrived on the 28th of June with Irene and I there to meet her when
she got off the plane in Calgary. Tears and hugs all around.
Bob pictured here watering the
Egremont garden in my authentic Russian Navy hat and tie from
Russia. Promised my hostess, Olga I would send her a picture
of me with my hat. She said, do it in the winter. I told her it
wouldn't be funny in the winter... but would be very functional when
I am blowing snow.
July started off with us working
on the deck at our place in the country. Amanda was coming up from
Australia for a two week visit and we wanted to have a party for her
and to christen the deck. Things are in place for us to have the
party with a few tweaks on the deck for later.
The deck project has been a challenge, more so
for me as a non-carpenter, but the results are worth it. Follow the
links to the deck pictures on Facebook. Deck tales 1, 2
Party will be on the 10th as
Amanda is flying home to Geralton on the 13th. Pictures to
July 16-22: I will be in Orlando
attending the NSA national convention. It will be a great time to
reconnect with speaker friends and colleagues and to share ideas
which will help us keep honing our skills and making our speaking
businesses more productive.
I have some marketing to do, new articles to
write, and lots of tweaks on the websites to work on. Some of
which I can now do on the new deck and when I need a drink the
Margarita bar is well stocked with Pepsi too.
I need to expand our Secret
Leadership Tips series and am working on a new concept around a
mentoring success program for Sales, Leadership and Presentations. I
already have the videos in place.
Thanks for reading
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Pictured here with the harbour of
Vladivostok in the background.
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I found my new Russian friends to
be very much like my Canadian and American friends. Each
of us has dreams and desires, challenges and obstacles to
overcome. Each of us has a hope of building a better life,
being successful in our chosen career, and making our lives a
service to others.
As I commented to the lady
checking us in on my way home, "You have a wonderful country.
And, I judge a country by its people."
So, I returned "from
Russia, with love..." love of the talented, loving
people who are once again rebuilding their land, who welcomed
me into their lives and their homes, love of the country and
its richness and potential, and with the hope that I will be
invited back again.
Bob is a professional speaker, author,
leadership, sales, and business success
He is proud to
be an active professional member of these amazing
groups of people dedicated to polishing their craft
and to better serving their clients and audiences.
Bob is the co-founder
and a past president of CAPS Vancouver,
an honorary founding member of CAPS Sask., an honorary
member of CAPS Halifax, as well as being an active
member of CAPS Edmonton. He served
as CAPS National Director (2000-2002).
He would be happy
to discuss how he can work with you to equip and
motivate your leaders, their teams, sales teams,
or volunteers to grow and to succeed.
Call him today at
1-780-736-0009 to explore leveraging his innovative
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