Point to Ponder
new beginning comes from some other beginning's end." Seneca
always a great time to begin again.
It is never
too late to start over.
It is always
good policy to renew and move on.
It is always
a good thing to renew your faith in you.
It is good
to consider who believes in you and your growth.
It is seldom
a bad thing to stop and reflect on the lessons you've learned.
It is a
great day to make new plans, new friends, and to renew old ones.
It is always
a great time to begin again."
Life has its challenges and I've
enjoyed a few along the path. No doubt, I will enjoy more as I
continue working in and walking
on this journey of mine.
In life and in business we often need
to begin again. Sometimes that means leaving something behind;
something that no longer fits or suits us; something that is no
longer in tune with the world around us.
What do you need to let go
of? What is holding you back from your new beginning, your
new journey, or your new challenge? It takes courage to begin again
and to let go of those things, activities, beliefs and sometimes
people who are holding you back. Are you a person of courage? What
will you begin?
Hard to believe all the years that have
passed.... 72 issues with 72 thought provoking points to
ponder... wow that is motivational in itself! Actually went
back and re-read some of them and I was amazed at how relevant many
of them are for me now.
We are committed to serving you, to
challenging you, and to engaging you to seek your best results; to
move from your comfort zone into the winner's zone; and to believing
(sometimes in spite of the challenges before you) that you can grow,
learn, and be successful.
always a great time to begin again!"
Bob 'Idea Man' Hooey
Older, and perhaps a bit wiser, than my
As I told someone recently who asked
how I was doing, "My wife loves me and everything
else is a bonus." Puts it in perspective for me.
That was a new beginning that has brought joy, love, and a
sense of togetherness to my life.
And, she keeps me focused and working strategically.
May has been
a good month of new beginnings or of new beginnings beginning
to take hold.
How will you make
this May a marvelous month of new beginnings for
- I began my journey into the realm of
public speaking in April of 1991 when I attended my first
Toastmasters meeting and had my membership start the next month -
in May. Big Dreams - small steps.
- We hosted our initial formation
meeting on April 16th, 1997 of the CAPS Vancouver chapter and help
form what would become CAPS National and the Global Speakers
- We began work (April 2004) on what now
moves us into our 7th year of serving you with our monthly Ideas @
Work ezine. We officaly launched in May of 2004.
- Each year I use my birthday (April
18th) as my personal new year and move into May with renewed
efforts to make the coming year better, more productive, and add
move value for my audience's and readers; and more fun in mine.
The 7 Reasons
You Can't Remember Names
Did you ever wonder why you can remember
faces and you can't seem to remember names? Can you even remember
faces? Some people have no ability to remember faces have a
condition called prosopagnosia. But more than
98% of respondents to our Memory Survey have said they always
remember faces and never remember names. Almost everyone has
a horror story of not being able to remember names.
This can be so debilitating that people
will miss events just because they know there will be people in
attendance whose names they will not remember. A friend of mine
whose family owns several companies with hundreds of employees
stopped going to the Christmas Parties because everyone knew him and
he could not remember them.
Certainly this is forgivable because he
only sees them once a year, but for him it was too much, year after
year going to these events and having everyone come up and greet him
by name and not being able to respond, or introduce his wife let
alone try to remember the name of their spouse.
1. The most immediate reason you don't
remember names is, you don't think you can. "If you think you can,
or if you think you cannot, you are probably right." It is almost
impossible to do that which you think you can't do. And when you
think you can't remember names you don't even pay attention let
alone put forth the effort. This is a self limiting misconception,
and can only be corrected by proving to yourself that you can
2. Often you don't even hear the person's
name. It could be that they are not speaking clearly, it could even
be they have one of those powerful hand grips, and crush the fingers
of everyone they meet. What is comical about that is, they use the
strong pressure just so you will remember them. The problem is once
you do not hear their name your brain takes the position "We already
forgot that name." Now you have to work extra hard just to defeat
the position your brain has already taken.
3. More often than not you are thinking
of something else, like what you can do for them, how you can help
them, what they can do for you. But do you say "I wasn't listening",
no cause that would sound like you don't care, so instead you
say/think "I can't remember names". Do this a couple of hundred
times and that is what is playing in your mind at the moment you are
4. Since you do not already know the
person you are meeting they just are not important to you yet. So
you do not do anything to make sure you re-member. You must value
them before you hear their name to enhance your chances of
remembering. "The probability of creating a memory is enhanced by
the activity of value systems." (P 98 A Universe of Consciousness G.
Edelman & G. Tononi)
5. Sometimes you are just
overwhelmed, you are meeting so many people that you think, you
cannot remember them all, so in democratic fashion you forget them
all, just to keep everyone equal.
6. You aren't using the
brain the way it developed. For the vast majority of the history of
our species we did not have written words. We remembered everything
by rhythm, and chants, and dance. Now almost everything we learn is
through the written word. We allow our keen ability to learn by
listening to atrophy, social conditioning plays a role "Never
believe anything you hear".
7. Probably the worst reason of
all is, you think you can fool people so you don't have to remember
their name. On one internet blog the statement goes something like
this, "When you don't remember someone's name just ask "How do you
spell your name again? And if you forget it again just use the same
technique and they will never notice." This is like adding insult to
injury. What can be a rather small injury, unless of course this is
one of your best customers, friends, or worse, is turned into an
insult. Read (You are not smart enough to know or notice that in
fact I forgot your name AGAIN).
The good news is, your brain
is totally plastic, it is not hardware, it is squishy ware, and your
neurological resources are not rigid, they are capable of
substantial improvement. Through practice you can remember almost
everyone you meet.
© 2008 Bill Clennan, Used with permission of
the late author.
This article was written by the
late Bill Clennan, who had been helping people improve their memory
performance by speaking at more than 10,000 meetings since 1969.
I may not always remember names, but I
will remember my friend and fellow CAPS colleague who played a major
part in my life and growth. I still miss you Billy; you were
a true friend.
Last Minute News
April kept us busy... and May will keep
us moving. Continuing our work on rewrites and conversions to
reader formats. Working to launch our new Speaking for
Success on-line video coaching program in a format similar
to our Secret Selling Tips. Working on several other print and
e-publications including TALK, So People Will Listen,
a new mini book.
Off to Calgary on the 10th as I will be
keynoting the Canadian Society of Safety Engineer's NOASH convention
on the 11th.
Working on outside projects at our
place in Egremont now that spring is really here. Still helping out
with Irene's mom who is now in rehab...and hopefully will be able to
come home in the next month or so.
My sister and her husband sold their
house and will be moving in June. Not sure as yet where they are
going to move to, but they are both retired.
Thanks for reading
Bob 'Idea Man' Hooey
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