Point to Ponder
Two words made all the
difference. Whoever said, "Talk is cheap!" did not speak the
3 years ago, TODAY, I married my best friend.
Irene and I were married in Las Vegas, NV by a local pastor. When
the Pastor asked me the traditional question, "Do you take Irene to
be your ..." I tearfully said, "I DO!" and I did!
Thankfully she said, "I DO!" too. All she said when we decided to
get married there was, "No drive through and no
When I asked her on the
cruise to Los Angeles, "Would you like to get married?" She simply
said, "YES!" and that one word started the amazing
journey we are on now.
And my life changed,
for the better!
enriched my life in too many ways to outline here.
Life can be a long and lonely road and having someone you
like and love along makes the journey more fun and more satisfying.
Irene and I love and like each other and support each other.
We travel well together and enjoy each others' company. We have
divergent interests and politics and that helps to keep us fresh
and vibrant. I am so grateful and blessed to have Irene in my
Once you make the
commitment things fall in place. Two simple words, "I
DO!" or "I WILL!" can make a major
difference if you are a person who lives up to your words.
words can lead the way to creating a path where there is
words can lead to creating a team from a divergent group
of individuals coming together for a common goal or good.
words can inspire others to step up and move past their
words can set you on a journey of personal leadership and
action on ideas and dreams long dormant.
words can bring hope and help to others who are
struggling; people who can learn and build from your
words can express the love, affection, and appreciation
so missing in our lives. People are dying for words that touch
their souls. You can speak them!
I am now working on the creation of our
CAPS Edmonton leadership team. I will be their leader and President
for 2012. Each of them said "I will" (in some form or other) when I
asked them to help me and the chapter.
What are you willing to say when
challenged to step up, to make a difference, to move ahead?
Will you say, I DO?
See you next month.
PS:This Saturday I get the privilege of
being the MC for friends of ours who are getting married. The words
I share will, I trust, be uplifting, bring a laugh, and I hope help
to make their marriage day a special one.
I originally wrote this leadership piece
many years ago and have shared its wisdom around the world, in
person and in print. I deliberately revisited it at this time as I
am moving into a new leadership role. I will share this issue with
the new team members and challenge them to challenge me to practice
what I preach.
Strategies for 'Bringing Out the Best in People'
By Bob 'Idea Man'
McGinnis wrote a book back in the last century about
bringing out the best in people. It was well-received and gained
exposure and acceptance among progressive leaders at that
Over the years, I've had the
chance to reflect on what Alan outlined. In fact, as I wrote this I
still have his 12 rules sitting on my wall above my desk as a visual
reminder of how important they are in leading and coaching the
people I work with across North America, and more recently around
If you are committed to being an effective leader or
manager, perhaps they should be sitting somewhere close, so they are
not far from your mind's eye. They provide the foundation for
effective management, leadership success, and leveraged teamwork.
Apply them well to equip and motivate your team to succeed. I
include them, along with my own reflective thoughts, for your
inspiration and illumination.
Expect the best from
the people you lead.
See them performing at their best.
Often people will rise or fall to the level of our expectations. See
them as they could be, not as they are! Don't limit them by
expecting less than their best.
Make a thorough study
of the other person's needs.
Each person on your team is
an individual with specific skills, talents,
weaknesses, needs, and dreams. Taking time to know
them makes it easier to lead and direct them for mutual success. It
allows you as manager or leader to help them
succeed in their
standards for excellence.
Leaders fail when they accept
mediocre results or fail to set challenging standards. People will
amaze you when you set the bar higher and lead by example. Don't be
afraid to challenge your team to live up to and surpass achievable
goals and standards.
Create an environment
where failure is not fatal.
Mistakes are a natural part
of life and taking risks means occasionally you fall short.
your team feels supported and encouraged, they will take risks
and move past their comfort zone into the winners' zone. Help them
learn from the lessons of any mistakes or miss-steps and move ahead
with energy to face the next challenge.
(This point, when shared during a
presentation in Tehran, Iran got me into a nervous conversation with
one of the clerics in the audience. He took me aside, following my
presentation to talk about it. But that is another
If they are going
anywhere near where you want to go, climb on other people's
Sometimes you need to be honest and realize
that people are not always going the
same direction or share the
same values that you live. In that case, let them go and stay your
own course. However, if they are going where you want the team to
be, let them lead and be supportive. Be courageous enough to realize
that you can follow your own path. Others who share your values will
Employ models to
This goes to the heart of leadership
by example. Make sure this is modeled in your own management life
and in the lives of those you promote, train, and delegate to
Recognize and applaud
People do not work simply for money or
position. Each has his or her own needs. One of those needs, deep
inside each of us, is the need to feel appreciated, informed, and
important to the team. As a leader or manager, the most effective
thing we can do is to recognize achievement and effort from those we
lead and to share and publicly applaud their
Employ a mixture of
positive and negative reinforcement.
We understand it is
a good thing to provide praise and positive reinforcement in
team members' efforts. This affirms their actions and
encourages them to move ahead. It is also necessary at times to
apply the opposite tack when one of them is doing something
detrimental in the fulfillment or follow through of their role.
Letting them know what is 'not' acceptable is also part of a
leader's role. We can do it
nicely and in kindness, but do it we
must if they are to grow and maximize their
enough, people appreciate knowing their
Appeal sparingly to
the competitive urge.
Each of us has a natural
competitive edge. If used wisely, competition can be a great
to higher achievement. It has its 'dark' side in allowing divisive
actions and attitudes to creep into a team environment. Focus on the
team accomplishment and mutual win. Encourage each to compete for
higher standards and personal skill development.
Place a premium on
This is where team
- 'works', and where effective managers and leaders
learn to pull
people from diverse backgrounds, agendas, and
experiences into an effective unit.
Brainstorming is one way
of effective collaboration allowing each to build and draw on
brainpower of one another. It is a great way to energize your team
and draw from
their creativity to drive innovation and
Build into the group
an allowance for storms.
It is not always smooth sailing
as a leader or in managing team efforts. Storms,
challenges, detours, and disasters can strike when you least expect
them. As a leader you need to build in allowances for these speed
bumps in your team's progress and have some plans in place to cover
each potential challenge. Sometimes you need to step in, give clear
directions, and help them weather the storm.
Take steps to keep
your own motivation high.
You are 'on' as a leader all
the time. This means people will be looking at you and
their cue from you. It also means you need to keep your personal
motivation high and maintain a positive outward attitude. This means
you may need to find a trusted advisor or fellow manager who can
discuss your challenges in private. Letting your negative feelings
show can be devastating to your team. They look to you as being
confident, clear in focus, and consistent in action and follow
through. Don't disappoint them.
Learn to apply these
management rules of the leadership road to smooth out your path and
make it easier for those who follow you to walk in
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Lots happening this
- Working with our new
2012 CAPS Edmonton leadership team to define roles and goals and
to begin laying out our leadership year together.
- Working with my fellow
NSA Chapter Leadership Council members to help our respective NSA
- Working with
the amazing Wayne Lee who is headlining our upcoming CAPS
Foundation evening in Toronto at the end of November.
This is my final year of my 3 year term as a Foundation
- Preparing for CAMP NSA
- Off to Calgary again on
the 14th and 15th.
- Helping speaker friends
promote their new book launches. Oct. 6th Mark Sanborn launches
his latest book, Up, Down or Sideways. Check it out and buy one.
- Working on client
projects, presentations, and new writing projects as well as
continuing to update my publications for conversion to EPUB
- Also getting the place
in Egremont ready for the late fall and winter seasons. Most
likely will be leaving about half the gravel pile until spring.
But I have made a dent in it and the parking pad is covered. Will
let it pack over the winter and top up. The remainder of the
gravel will go on the driveway.
- Working on pulling posts
from the old blog and adding to them for my new Ideas At Work!
- Creating time to spend
with my beautiful bride as we continue our journey. Smile!
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